Why is it that we tend to reserve romance for Valentine’s Day anyway? Romantic love is one of God’s greatest gifts to us. It draws men and women together so that we leave our first families to form a new one. Of course, romantic love, along with physical attraction, is temporal and fleeting, and must be replaced by a truer, deeper love to last a lifetime, but romance can and should be a part of a healthy relationship for a lifetime, and not only one day a year.
This year for Valentine’s Day, my husband and I went on a date. With four kids still at home and both of us working full time, that doesn’t happen as often as we would like, but we try to go out alone together at least once a month even if it’s just for breakfast. Being alone together over a meal gives us time to talk about our hobbies and interests, share anecdotes from work, and catch up on each other’s lives. We’re both busy, and by the time we get to bed, we don’t talk, we just go to sleep, so we need times like that to get to know each other again. Our Valentine’s meal was kind of special; Ron opened the car door for me, we went to a nice restaurant, we shared an appetizer, and we didn’t worry about the price or the time. It was fun to “date” like we did before we were married.
But we need those times regularly, not just on Valentine’s Day. We need to keep romance alive in our marriage and cherish one another. Ron and I do this by holding hands, spending time alone together, taking an interest in each others’ hobbies, remembering to say “I love you.” The simplest things can make the difference between feeling loved and feeling alone. For me, every day is Valentine’s Day, because I’m with my Valentine every day.